After Someone Dies....
Everyone experiences grief differently there is no right way to feel. Feelings can include shock, disbelief, numbness, despair, intense sadness, guilt, depression, relief, fear or anger. It can sometimes feel as though we are on a roller coaster of emotions.
Even if the death of the person happened years ago, it is quite common to experience unfamiliar or renewed feelings of intense grief and loss, especially during stressful periods at university.
How Can I Cope With It All ?
It can feel like the bottom has dropped out of your world and it is hard to imagine anything good ever happening again.
It might help to talk and explain to someone how you are feeling:
A friend.
Family member.
A counsellor.
A tutor.
I Feel So Alone ..
It can be hard to believe that anyone else can understand the pain you are experiencing this can result in feelings of isolation.
Not everyone will understand but many people will.
What Can Help?
There is no magic wand to make the pain go away or to bring life back to normal.
Some people have found the following activities helpful in easing their pain:
Writing poetry, keeping a diary.
Making a memory box.
Marking the anniversary of the death in some way watching a favourite film or visiting a special place.
Writing a letter to the person who has died.
Recording favourite songs of the person who has died.
How Long Will It Take?
Grieving is such an individual process that its impossible to say.
You need to:
Give yourself time and grieve at your own pace.
Allow yourself to have fun, to laugh and to cry.
More Information at:
www.rd4u.org.uk Helpline: 0844 477 9400
www.cruse.org.uk
Download self help guide here
